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  1. Opher
    October 28, 2016 @ 7:39 am

    I think it is really important for Dad’s to play an active role. It takes a lot of people to bring up a kid. It’s a big job and a father’s input is so important – emotionally and physically. It is important that they relate, bond and help children grow – important for them and the child. Also taking a 50% share of all the work involved.
    This is an anecdote I wrote in one of my books concerning taking an active role back when disposable diapers were not an option. –
    https://opherworld.wordpress.com/2016/10/12/my-weird-sixties-surreal-book-reality-dreams-chapter-39-a-shit-day/

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    • Bethany Edwards
      October 28, 2016 @ 8:41 am

      That is too funny; Jessica and were just having the diaper conversation yesterday; she uses cloth diapers and I am willing to spend $2500 in the next two years so I never have to touch laundry that is covered in my daughter’s feces.. to each their own right?! Thanks for the comment!

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      • Opher
        October 28, 2016 @ 8:44 am

        You’re welcome!
        I think the experience of having babies lowers the threshold for contact with urine, faeces and vomit. No matter how careful you try to be there is an inevitability.

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  2. Nina
    October 28, 2016 @ 1:54 pm

    This is great and I totally agree! When I was pregnant, I constantly reminded Eddy, that I shouldn’t be the only one spending time with our precious child. Him spending quality time with our child matters as much as my input. Although, I had to return to school after a week I gave birth, it worked out perfectly. I got a reason to get out of the house and my better half got a complete alone time with the baby. I’ll admit, that when the moment came for me to actually leave them for the first time, I did concider staying home. But then I pulled my self together – it has to start somewhere. The bond I see between them only after a year is amazing and I wouldn’t change it for anything.

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    • Bethany Edwards
      October 29, 2016 @ 7:39 am

      It is so hard to leave our babies, but I completely agree, the father’s bond needs time to be cultivated and cannot happen if we as mothers are always there! My husband takes our daughter out on dates just like he takes me out.:) I have to be honest though, when my daughter wants my husband to tuck her in at night I get very jealous… intellectually I know it’s wonderful, but like you said, it’s physically painful to feel any separation. Thanks for commenting!!

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      • Opher
        October 29, 2016 @ 1:47 pm

        My babies are all grown and flown. I carry the imprint of their cuddles.

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  3. Opher
    October 28, 2016 @ 6:56 pm

    I think males can bond with children just as much as females. It is also only fair that they tajke on 50% of the tiresome duties as well. That seems just plain fairness.

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